Communication can be verbal or nonverbal. According to Papa (2012), “for example, if you say, “I love you,” and then kiss your spouse, the words are verbal and the action of the kiss is the nonverbal communication” (para. 3). Humans would not survive without the different forms of communication. There are many forms of communication in human societies, but one interesting form of communication is demonstrative communication. Demonstrative communication is a very effective way to get a point across, without using words, but rather body language and best of all anyone is capable of using this form of communication.
Demonstrative communication can be effective or ineffective, positive or negative, but ultimately this form of communication requires listening, touching, and responding to be successful. This form of communication can be effective or ineffective depending on its use. According to Papa (2012), “if communication is ineffective it has the power to hurt, confuse and misinform the listener (para. 2)”. An example of ineffective communication would be if a parent was teaching a child not to hit by spanking him or her.
The child will learn that hitting is acceptable instead of learning not to hit, therefore this is ineffective demonstrative communication. Although ineffective communication can be destructive in some cases it can help people grow, and learn how to demonstrate effective communication. Here is an example from an article on how demonstrative communication can be effective. This example involves a boy who suffered a traumatic brain injury, which left him paralyzed from the waist down and also left him without the use of verbal communication (Jedzinska, 2012).
The nurse could tell the boy was coherent, but she could not figure out how to communicate with him right away, until days later when two individuals showed her a form of demonstrative communication that she could use (Jedzinska, 2012). According to Jedzinska (2012), “the technique required my hands spread apart, I asked the patient a closed question. He then responded by pointing with his arm to my left or right hand –left meaning ‘yes’ and right meaning ‘no’ ” (p. 27). Here are other examples that show the effectiveness of this communication.
Demonstrative communication is extremely operative by babies, the blind, and the deaf. These individuals as well as others would have a hard time surviving in society because he or she relies on this form of communication. Here are some other examples of demonstrative communication: A baby cries when it is hungry or smiles when it is happy. The blind and deaf may use sign language to communicate their thoughts. An adult uses his or her facial expressions to express disappointment in his or her child, and a child avoids eye contact when he or she is lying about something he or she has done.
These examples show how effective this communication can be in situations which verbal communication is incapable and the example with the father and child provides how demonstrative communication can be ineffective. There are positive and negative forms of this type of communication, which is considered the feedback from the receiver. Here are some examples of positive forms sent to the sender or receiver. A smile can say a lot it can tell the sender the receiver is happy. A hug is a positive way to show that a person cares for someone, and depending on the hug a person can tell a lot more about the way a person is feeling.
Clapping, whistling, dancing, putting a thumbs-up, are also forms of positive communication. Positive demonstrative communication can be empowering to the sender but not all feedback will be positive. Here are some examples of negative forms sent from the sender to the receiver. A frown, shaking of the head, eye glaring, and displaying the middle finger can signify a negative form of demonstrative communication. Positive and negative demonstrations are a common part of everyday life, and an individual must learn to determine the difference between the two to have effective communication.
According to Cheesebro, O’Connor, & Rios (2010), “listening is “the process of receiving, constructing meaning from, and responding to spoken and/or nonverbal messages” (ILA, 1996, p. 1). This means that listening is important with nonverbal messages from the sending and receiving end. For example if a person talks to his or her best friend every day, and one day he or she ignores him or her that is sign something is wrong, and it is important for the friend to respond to this demonstrative communication to spare feelings and move forward.
Keep in mind that it is important to respond appropriately after taking in the information. Communication is the key to human success. Communication can be verbal or nonverbal or can be verbal and nonverbal at the same time. Using both communication methods together is the most effective way to communicate information. For the message to be received properly people must use active listening when receiving any form of message. People use nonverbal communication without even thinking about it, so it is important to be aware of every form of communication whether it is positive or negative, or effective or ineffective.
Cheesebro, T. , O’Connor, L. , & Rios, F. (2010). Communicating in the workplace. Upper Saddle River, NJ: Prentice Hall. Jedzinska, A. (2012, October). Nursing placement taught me that all forms of communication are important. Nursing Standard, 27(8), 27. Retrieved from http://ehis. ebscohost. com/eds/pdfviewer/pdfviewer? sid=254672b0-af59-4dfa-b3fb-38693fc5651f%40sessionmgr14&vid=13&hid=124 Papa, J. (2012). Effective & Ineffective Communication. Retrieved from http://www. ehow. com/about_6110746_effective-ineffective-communication. html